AIO – for thinking my boyfriend is jealous of my DAD? UPDATE

My (F18) boyfriend (M20) is jealous of my dad

This is an update feel free to check out my first post on my page. I didn’t expect it to get so much attention. Thank you to everyone who shared support and their own stories; it truly meant a lot!!!

Yesterday I spoke to him on the phone. At first, he was trying to sweet talk me , but he kept saying it’s uncomfortable….how close I am to my dad, and told me I should distance myself. He called me a “daddy’s girl” in a way that made me feel embarrassed and said it’s strange I still rely on my dad

I didn’t know what to say it just made me upset he keeps doing this. My dad is my only family. He raised me alone after my mom died when I was a baby. He’s my rock and best friend. I ended up hanging up because it felt like he couldn’t understand how important my dad is to me. (Also, for context, this is my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for 6 months.)

Lately, he’s been pulling faces when I call my dad “daddy,” and acting uncomfortable when we hug. He called me “needy” …when I ask my dad to drive me, even though I can’t drive yet!! and am still waiting for my practical test. He expects me to either rely on him or use public transport.

He’s also made comments about my allowance, telling me I should get a job and stop relying on my dad, even though my dad is simply supporting me while I focus on my studies

It’s gotten so bad that he said it’s wrong for me to wear a bikini around my dad at the beach. I found myself pulling away from my dad calling him just “dad,” even though it feels weird to me just to make my boyfriend more comfortable. I even felt guilty being affectionate with my own father… like I was holding back who I really am.

The other night while we were watching a movie, I felt cold and instinctively shifted a little closer to my dad, who put his arm around me like he’s always done. When my boyfriend came back into the room, I was about to move back, but before I could, he grabbed his phone and left. He ignored me the rest of the night and the next morning.

For extra context, his parents are kind and sweet, but they spoil him ALOT. He’s their pride and joy. Some people thought maybe he lacked a father figure BUT his dad is very much in his life they go hiking and play sports together. They also enable him a lot.

He’s honestly nice to me about everything else just not when it comes to my dad.
Anyway, this is the update. Thank you again for all the support.