AIO: Break up due to Election

Okay, so I (25F) broke up with my boyfriend (27M) today, and now I’m questioning if I overreacted. We’ve been together for over 3 years, and politics has never been a big thing we talked about. We kind of just avoided it because I knew we didn’t see eye to eye on a lot of things, but with the election today, I feel like I just couldn’t stay quiet anymore.

This morning, I asked him if he was voting, and he said “No, I dont care” I asked why he didnt care and he just shrugged and said “Both are terrible. I’m not voting for the dictator or the Democrats’ Hail Mary.” I was kind of shocked because I didn’t realize he was so disengaged. So I asked him why he wasn’t voting at all, and he literally said, “I’m going to be like WWII Belgium and remain neutral.” I mean… what? I didn’t even know how to respond to that.

Then we started talking about abortion rights, how we had a pregnancy scare a few years back, and he said, “As a man, abortion isn’t my issue.” I almost couldn’t believe it. I tried to explain to him why it’s a huge issue, not just for me but for so many women thats put into law BY men, and he was just like, “Well, it doesn’t affect me, so I don’t care.”

I told him that it does affect him—what if I get pregnant?—but he just brushed it off like it was no big deal “we’re in Virginia, we’re fine”. I don’t know, that was the moment I realized we are just on completely different pages about something that’s really important to me.

So, I ended up breaking up with him. I just can’t be with someone who doesn’t care about things that matter so much to me, especially when it’s something as fundamental as women’s rights.

Now I’m second-guessing myself. Need to write this out, he’s a great guy honestly but the lack of doing anything is exhausting.