AIO bf “forgets” our plans and plays the victim?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We usually only see each other once or twice a week because he spends most of his time with his friends. Lately, a recurring issue has been really bothering me. he often forgets the plans we make and ends up scheduling something else with his friends instead. We are both 19 for context.

For example, this week he hung out with a friend until 1 AM on Monday. He came over Tuesday night around 7, but left by 9 saying it was “getting late.” Then he hung out with friends again Wednesday and Thursday, and now he’s spending the entire weekend at the lake with them. Meanwhile, our time together feels rushed or half-hearted.

What hurts more is that he always says things like “I’m just bad at remembering,” but honestly… I feel like people remember what’s important to them. And I constantly feel like I’m not. It makes me question why he even wants to be in a relationship if he doesn’t seem to prioritize our time or take it seriously.

To add to that, when we do hang out, all he really wants to do is cuddle or be physically affectionate—touching me constantly, grabbing my butt, etc.—and it makes me feel like he only wants closeness on his terms, without putting in any real effort emotionally.

I’m not trying to be dramatic. I just feel forgotten, unwanted, and honestly disrespected. Am I overreacting by being upset about this? Or should I accept that maybe he’s just forgetful? I don’t know how to respond to him when his excuse is that he’s just bad at remembering.