AITA for telling my wife my childhood friend will never forgive her for what she did?

My wife (32F) and I (34M) have been married for 6 years, together for 10. We have a 4 year old son. A few years ago, my close childhood friend (34F) got married. We’ve been extremely close since we were kids, both our families were dysfunctional in different ways. At one point, my dad cheated on my mom with her mom, they got married, divorced a year later, and we basically ended up abandoned by both sides. Through all that, we became really close with each other. She even has 2 tattoos that relate to our bond, I would have gotten a tattoo too but I’m sort of scared of needles.

My wife was actually close to my friend too, and never showed signs of being insecure about our friendship, until postpartum hit. After our son was born, she really struggled. Her emotions were all over the place, and she became extremely insecure about my relationship with my friend. I was supposed to be Man of Honor at my friend’s wedding, help plan things, and be a big part of the ceremony. But my wife was so anxious and uncomfortable, she begged me not to attend.

It made me really sad, but I chose my wife. I told my friend I couldn’t go and told her why. She was really hurt by it. Not angry, just really sad, but said she understood. A couple months later, my wife fully recovered and apologized, both to me and to my friend. I forgave her. My friend, however, didn’t.

When my wife reached out to my friend to apologize, my friend was polite but direct. She said she never wanted to speak to her again. She didn’t yell or make a scene, she just drew a boundary. Honestly, I get it. It was a once-in-a-lifetime day, and she’d leaned on me for years, and I bailed. I still feel guilty about it.

My friend and I still talk regularly. Nothing inappropriate, we’re just close, always have been. Recently, my wife asked if there was any chance my friend would forgive her. I told her the truth: no. That ship sailed. My wife got sort of quiet and looked sad and hasn’t brought it up again, but I wonder if I was too blunt.

AITA for not giving my wife hope and just telling her forgiveness probably isn’t happening?