AITAH for refusing to pay for my wife’s “emergency” surgery because she spent our savings on her friend’s boob job?

My (34M) wife (32F) and I have been married for 7 years. We’re generally good with money, but we’ve been saving for a long-overdue home renovation. Last month, I found out that my wife secretly loaned $10,000 of our savings to her best friend for a boob job. She didn’t tell me until after it was done, saying it was a “gift of kindness” and that I’d understand because her friend was depressed. I was furious but let it slide because the money was technically still in the family account, and I figured we’d rebuild.

Fast forward to last week, my wife had a medical issue requiring immediate surgery. It wasn’t life-threatening, but the doctor said it needed to be addressed quickly. When the bill came, she assumed we’d pay out of our savings, but I told her I wasn’t using the rest of the account for this since she had already decided what that money was for. I suggested she ask her best friend to help with the bill. She called me heartless and said I was being petty and punishing her over something unrelated.

Her family is furious with me, saying I’m prioritizing a renovation over her health. I told them they’re free to pitch in, but I’m standing my ground. She’s staying with her mom now, and I’m starting to question if I’m being cruel here.

Like AITAH?