AIO- husband upset that *I* was upset, he has blocked me and said we should “call it”.

I took notes about our original argument earlier, as I swear to god the story always flips into something I am questioning:

After brunch we (I am 43f, he is 48m- together for 16 years) were heading home. He mentioned how his friends style had changed. I said it was probably his wife shopping for him. I mentioned getting a new wardrobe for him. He said ok, but I said you gotta give me your card bc it’s not cheap! and that I get him clothes randomly if I see something that he might like, or if I am thinking of him. He said that was not true, I only get him clothes on holidays or birthdays. Although I could not pinpoint an exact example at that time I said that he was incorrect, and I do try to grab stuff for him when I see something that makes me think of him. He then said that maybe I do that, but that I go out of my way when I do do that to make sure he knows I got him something. And that it was phishing, “look at this nice thing I did for you!” Etc. that made me sad. I never am looking for anything like that. He said to “take it down a notch” and he at one point gestured my car we were driving, saying he did a nice thing by putting down the majority of the downpayment, 2 years ago. He makes 3 times what I do and I put down almost 2k myself.

Later we got home, and I asked about the vacuum, as he brought it down the day before. I asked if it was still downstairs. He said he still needed it. I didn’t say anything but wasn’t upset, I was trying to think what other housework I needed to do. He then also said I needed to calm down, that I was nagging, and that he wanted nothing to do with me that day. He claims I “rolled my eyes” when he said he was using it, but I was just standing around thinking about what other chores to do.

I tried to explain but he wasn’t having it. He came behind me to hug me and said he wanted a nice day. I said I too wanted a good day, but what he said hurt my feelings. He said he tried to apologize, (the hugging) but I said that wasn’t apologizing. He then said he would never do that again, in anger. I said we needed counseling. He refused. He said he isn’t happy and we should call it, that I should try to find someone else that would put up with my bullshit