AIO? I just found my wallet that had gone missing in September, in my girlfriend’s backpack..

Im going to make a long story as short as I can without sparing too many details. My girlfriend (28) and I (29) had just moved in to our new apartment together this week. In september, I called the police on her for putting her hands on me. (maybe I was being over dramatic, but I did what I had to do to protect myself.) that day, as I was leaving her place, It came to my attention that I didn’t have my wallet on me. I tried to get back inside, and she refused to give it to me. With that being said, as the police came and took her away in handcuffs, I am again realizing that the wallet is still not in my possession. I know my girlfriend tends to be sneaky and hide things of mine, from me so it seems like I am irresponsible of my items and it gives her control over me. (she has hid my cellphone, my airpods, the list goes on) Fast forward to 2025, my mother is moving out of state and I had my social security card in this wallet. my mother drove all over to get my birth certificate so that I can replace the lost social all before and while she is in the moving process. On her only day off, she did all of this for me because apparently you need a parent to get the birth certificate since I was under the impression that I lost any sort of identification that I had.

My girlfriend and I have been in this new apartment since Thursday night. she was looking for a hundred dollar bill for a massage which I knew she had in her backpack. As I look in the spot that I last saw her put it in, I come across the wallet I have been searching top to bottom for the past 5 months.

I said outloud, “well I found my wallet, but not the $100 bill” and she FLIPPED OUT. saying because I was “nosey” and couldn’t wait for her to go through her own things, I RUINED the moment of her telling me she found in, while we were moving all of our things out. That she was going to tell me last night, but she ended up falling asleep or some shit she was trying to make up to make it seem like it was “lost” this entire time.

I knew in my GUT that she is the one who took it and made sure I couldn’t find it. As I told the police who came to the home in September exactly where I left it, and they never gave it to me.

She is trying to gaslight me into thinking it was wrong of me to go through her things and ruin a nice moment over “something that has been missing for months.”

I am at a loss for words, am I overreacting by saying I knew it was you all along? She is making me seem like I am in the wrong.