AITAH for telling my husband that you don’t lose weight magically after going to the gym?

My husband (m33) and I (f24) have been married two years, and we have a 16 week old daughter. Prior to my pregnancy, I was active but not as active as my husband. He is big into fitness and stuff and I really am not, I just worked out because my dr told me too lol. I only ran maybe twice a week and had a Pilates class every Sunday. I weighed 120 lbs before pregnancy.

During pregnancy I gained 40, lost 20 right off the bat after having my daughter (which my dr said it normal through my baby herself, fluid, placenta all that), and I have been working on losing the last 20.

While my body looks different I don’t really care as I am just glad my baby is so healthy and perfect. However my husband started mentioning my weight at 2 weeks post partum, literally.

He would say it and frame it in a way that was a “compliment” but it wasn’t. “Oh you look so good, you look like a mommy now.” Or “I wouldn’t guess it was a whole 20 lbs, maybe just 10 or so.”

I just rolled my eyes and told him to stop, honestly I didn’t care. Those comments happened maybe twice a week so it was easy to forget.

My dr told me to wait 12 weeks before returning to strenuous exercise, so I did. But the moment I hit 12 weeks my husband was asking me to come to the gym with him, literally all the time. He was badgering me almost. I did it to make him happy and he certainly was happy. I will admit it felt good to have some time to myself, and I didn’t mind going at all.

But now it’s been another 4 weeks since then and I haven’t lost any weight but like 2.5 lbs. My husband seems to think this is because I “snack” too much and he told me that. I told him I have to, I am breastfeeding.

So that started an argument. He told me that I should go back to Pilates to “tighten” my tummy again. I told him I’d rather die than do that right now tbh. He told me “fine then at least try harder”. I told him I am trying my absolute fucking hardest and “you don’t just magically lose weight in the gym.”

He whole heartedly disagrees with that and went on a tangent about how he loves me and my body for carrying our baby, but he wants me to still take care of myself for my health. Whatever. I mean I get that sentiment, a lot of my post partum appointments centered around my health as well but it more things like recovering, sleeping and eating enough. Not working out. So AITAH here?