I (30M) proposed to my girlfriend (27F) and her reaction left me confused and hurt. Am I overreacting?

I proposed to my girlfriend yesterday, and while I thought I planned something really special, I’m feeling confused and hurt by how things unfolded.

She’s always said she wanted three things in a proposal: (1) a custom ring she’s always wanted (which cost $16K, though price isn’t the issue), (2) a beach proposal, and (3) a surprise.

To make it special, I booked a trip to a beach resort she’s always talked about. I planned everything around her—snorkeling, swimming, activities she loves. I even had the hotel create a fake itinerary so I could propose during a private walk on a secluded beach. There was a photographer afterward to capture the moment.

On the drive back, she seemed off. We had dinner reservations at 7:30, but because the proposal location was 15 minutes away, we didn’t make it back in time. The restaurant offered to send our meals to our room instead, so we ate by the fireplace, just the two of us.

That night, she told me she was disappointed—she had wanted to celebrate at the restaurant and didn’t like having a photographer because she hadn’t done her nails. She kept bringing it up throughout the night, and I was honestly shocked. I apologized for not getting back sooner and for the photographer, explaining that I just wanted to capture a special moment in a place we likely wouldn’t be able to return to.

We ended up arguing because she kept saying room service didn’t feel like a proper way to “mark” our engagement. But in my heart, I had hoped she would just appreciate everything I put into planning this and that we’d be happy simply spending time together.

Am I overreacting for feeling hurt?

EDIT: I appreciate the reality check everyone’s given with respect to my obsession over the photographer. Perhaps it’s a mea culpa thing in wanting to believe that maybe I did mess up somehow. Otherwise her reaction makes no sense to me, but therein lies the truth I suppose.