AITA for exposing my boyfriend’s lies about my career at his family dinner?

I (24F) have been dating my bf (27M) for almost 2 years. Everything was great until 3 months ago when I got a promotion that basically doubled my salary. I’m now making way more than him, and I can tell it’s been bothering him.

Last week, we were at dinner with his college buddies and their gfs. Someone asked about my new job, and I was excitedly explaining it when my bf interrupted with “yeah she’s making bank now, but I’ll catch up soon, don’t worry.” Everyone laughed awkwardly.

Later that night, I confronted him about constantly bringing up how he’ll “catch up” whenever my salary comes up. He admitted he feels emasculated that I make more than him, and asked if I could “tone down” talking about my job around his friends.

I was stunned. I told him his insecurity wasn’t my problem to manage and that I wasn’t going to pretend to be less successful to protect his ego. He said I was being inconsiderate of his feelings and that “most women” would understand.

Yesterday, we were invited to his parents’ house for dinner. His mom asked about my promotion, and before I could answer, my bf jumped in saying “it’s just temporary until she can find something less demanding so we can start thinking about our future.”

I literally spit out my drink and said “that’s news to me” right there at the table. I then told his parents I had no plans to leave my dream job and that their son seemed to have an issue with my success.

The dinner got super awkward. Now he’s blowing up my phone saying I humiliated him and that I should’ve waited to have that convo in private. His mom texted me saying I was harsh and that “men need to feel like providers.”

AITA for refusing to downplay my success to make my boyfriend feel better about himself?