AITA for refusing to host Thanksgiving because my family keeps using my house as a free hotel?

Thanksgiving is just around the corner, and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. For the past five years, I’ve hosted at my house, and it’s gone from being something I genuinely loved to something I absolutely dread. The main issue isn’t the cooking or cleaning it’s how my family treats my home like a free hotel.

They don’t just come for the meal; they show up days early and act like they’re on vacation. My brother brings his kids, who immediately take over the living room with toys, snacks, and whatever mess they can make. My sister doesn’t lift a finger, claiming she’s “just here to relax,” and my mom spends the entire time critiquing everything I do. She even made me iron the tablecloth last year, saying it was “embarrassing” for the family to eat on wrinkles.

Last year was the final straw. My brother’s kids raided the fridge the morning after Thanksgiving, finishing off the leftover pie I was saving to share with my in-laws that weekend. No one helped clean up after dinner my husband and I spent two hours washing dishes while everyone else lounged in the living room, drinking wine. When I complained later, my sister rolled her eyes and said, “Well, you’re the one who wanted to host.”

This year, I decided I wasn’t going to do it. Back in September, I told everyone I needed a break and suggested we rotate hosting duties or go out to a restaurant. My mom said I was being selfish and that my house “is the most comfortable.” My sister flat-out refused, saying her apartment is “too small,” and my brother said he’s too busy to host because of his work schedule.

Since then, they’ve been constantly pressuring me to change my mind. My mom even said, “You’re ruining Thanksgiving for everyone,” and my brother promised to “help more this year,” though I’ve heard that before. Now, with only a day to go, no one has stepped up to host, and the family group chat is a passive-aggressive mess. My mom keeps implying that Thanksgiving might not happen at all if I don’t agree to host, which makes me feel terrible.

On one hand, I feel like it’s unfair for them to expect me to carry the burden year after year, especially when they treat me and my home with so little respect. On the other hand, the idea of Thanksgiving falling apart because of me is making me second-guess myself. Part of me wonders if I should just suck it up and host to keep the peace, but another part of me feels like I deserve a break too.

AITA for standing my ground and refusing to host this year?