AITAH For Not Making My Daughter Apologize To Her Teacher Again For Her Impromptu Costume?

34F. I’m the mother of two little girls (6F and 4F). My six year old is a funny, happy, and curious little girl. She can be a bit rambunctious and ask questions or make comments without thinking about how they impact people, which is something I’m trying to work with her on.

My daughter loves her first grade teacher and talks about her all the time. Her teacher is actually pregnant, and has started to show. My daughter was excited when she learned that her teacher was having a baby, and has been asking me and my husband all kinds of questions about pregnancies and babies (yay).

Today, her school let the kids dress up for Halloween. My daughter decided to dress up as Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter. I thought she would have a fun day and that her costume wouldn’t cause any trouble.

I got a call from her principal around lunch time. Apparently, my daughter stuck a basketball under her robes, walked up to her teacher, and said she’s dressing up as her for Halloween. When I heard this, I started laughing. I know my daughter, and I knew she did this because she loves her teacher and probably meant it as a sweet gesture.

Sadly, the teacher didn’t take it that way. She said my daughter was being rude, disrespectful, and commenting on a pregnant woman’s body. When we got to the school, my daughter was crying. We had a meeting with the teacher and principal and my daughter apologized for the costume. The teacher was angry the entire time, and kept telling my daughter how disrespectful she was and how disappointed she is.

When we were leaving, the teacher told me that she expected another apology from my daughter in the morning. I said that my daughter has already apologized, that she clearly feels badly for hurting her feelings. I said she’s learned her lesson and we don’t need to continue beating her up for it. The teacher, again, started saying how disrespectful my daughter was and I said I needed to go.

Again, my daughter was crying and very upset about the situation. I think she’s learned that it’s not appropriate to comment on a pregnant woman’s changing body and I didn’t think I needed to press the point any further. I ended up taking her to get ice cream and we had a fun afternoon, but she’s asked me several times if her teacher hates her and if she’s a “bad girl.” I’m very upset and am not going to make her apologize again tomorrow. AITAH?