AITAH for refusing to attend my husband’s best friends wedding due to political differences?

My husband (M32) and I (F28) have been friends with Dan (M30) for a very long time. They grew up together in Kansas, and we all got along very well.

Back when I met Dan, we were a pretty liberal crowd. We live in a very big metropolis, so all the people in our universe tend to be as well, which is very important to me on a moral level.

Our friend moved back to Kansas, and met a very wealthy woman who has a VERY conservative family. She herself says she is more on the center end of the spectrum, but says things that indicate she is way more far right that she lets on. It’s obvious to me she aligns herself to that party line since it benefits her financially (without regard for the rest of the population) and wants to be in daddy’s good graces.

Her family (from Dan’s words) say awful stuff all the time, racist, xenophobic, sexist stuff. I am an immigrant myself so I have been pretty uncomfortable knowing my friends is willing to cozy up to that family.

Since he started dating this woman, he parrots a lot of “both sides” shit that I have no patience for, and is clearly trying to merge into that lane.

We received an invitation to their wedding, and Dan wants my husband to be his best man. I told my husband that I understand they have a bond, but I don’t want to go to a million dollar wedding paved by MAGA people who are actively rooting against me and my family.

My husband was understanding, but told me I should tell our friend if I felt so strongly about it. I had a long chat with Dan and he flipped out saying that I’m an asshole for missing his wedding on account of “politics”. I explained that to me is a moral issue, and it shows his disregard for my safety and that of my loved ones.

My husband and some other friends are telling me to set our differences aside, but its really very hard for me to enjoy myself at a wedding where I feel I will not be welcome to.

AITAH?