AITAH for telling my mom and her husband I don’t give a shit of their kid dies.
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My mom and dad got divorced when I was five. It was good. They are terrible together. All I remember from back then is them fighting constantly. My mom got primary custody of me and my dad got me on weekends and some holidays.
It was better for a couple of years until my mom met Dale. He isn’t a bad person he just wasn’t interested in being a step dad. They got married when I was nine. Then they needed to move for Dale’s job. My mom left me with my dad and said she would be back for me when they got settled. My dad and grandma agreed to take care of me full time until then.
They apparently have settling to do still because I turned 17 in May and she hasn’t come back for me yet. She did however have a kid with Dale. I’ve never met him.
My half brother is sick and needs something from me. My mother and his father aren’t a match but I might be. My mom contacted me to ask me to get tested to see if I’m a match. My dad said it was up to me.
I said no. I have an athletic scholarship to college in the fall. If I do this (donate, not test) I won’t be able to participate in the sport I was recruited to play. Which will mean my scholarship goes away.
My mom begged. I thought about it. I know I have no shot at being a professional athlete. I’m good but not great. I can play Div. I sports but I won’t get payed to play. I came up with a compromise I thought would be good. I offered to get tested and if I was a match I would donate, if my mom and Dale agreed to pay my tuition for my degree. I thought it was win/win. If I donate the kid has a chance to live, I can concentrate on school instead of sports, and my dad gets a break after years of doing everything.
They said no. They said I should do it with no conditions. I said fuck no then. They accused me of being heartless. I said that just because she didn’t give a shit about me and my future doesn’t mean I don’t. She said my brother will die without me. And here is where I might be the asshole.
I literally said that it made no difference to me if here kid lived or died. That I didn’t give a shit.
My dad is staying out of it and my grandma is on my corner. In fact all of my dad’s family says it’s my decision. My mom’s family thinks I’m being an asshole for what I said. I’ve been blocking them all as I get the chance.
Am I the asshole?
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