AITAH: My husband (38m) and I (38f) had a conversation about a life-and-death situation during pregnancy. He called me selfish for wanting to live—am I wrong?

My husband and I were discussing hypothetical situations related to pregnancy and women’s health. I asked him: If there was a life-and-death situation during childbirth and he had to choose between me and our unborn child, who would he choose?

Without hesitation, he said he would choose the child. Then he asked, “Wouldn’t you?”

I told him I would want to be chosen to live. His response was to call me selfish for saying that.

This has left me feeling conflicted. Is it wrong to want to prioritize my own life in that situation? How would you feel in my position?

*** UPDATE ***

Hi everyone. I didn’t realize this could blow up and I am feeling overwhelmed. But also grateful for each and everyone for taking the time in writing their thoughts and feelings about the matter. And to those who shared their birth experiences, know that you are seen, loved and held. And to those who are expecting, I am praying for a safe birth for you and your baby/ babies.

Just to be clear, I am not currently pregnant. But my husband and I are open to having children. The only reason why we had this conversation in the first place is because of my age and there is a possibility for complications. I couldn’t really get into more details for privacy reasons.

Know that this matter will also be brought up in marriage counselling in hopes to gain more clarity in what has transpired.

Again, thank you everyone from the bottom of my heart.